Fixed it
I had cc_config.xml put into the main boinc program folder when it needed to be in d:\program data\boinc
Now it's using both GPUs just fine.. and they can even resume each others work
Just one card runs slower than the other
Damn this mobo has the 2 cards so close together that they are running at 90 to 100c... the 560 alone at MAX would never go over 60.. i'm going to have to instert something non conductive in between the cards to force more distance in between them
Edit: I wedged two things in between the 2 GPUs to give them about 1.5" more room and that got the temps under MAX load down to 70c, and I can live with that.